Do you believe in love at first sight

Love, no. I believe in attraction at first sight, and being attracted to habits or attributes that will keep you around long enough to fall in love, but not love at first sight. I have been attracted to people. I have wanted to get to know someone better because of seeing the kind of person they were with others. I have wanted to go out with someone based on looks. I remember one time at the young adult dances I saw a guy straight out of the movies. He was so handsome, man alive. I asked about him and low and behold he was asking about me also. We went out on a date and had a fun time but conversation was not flowing. I felt like he must really really be upset that he asked me out on the way home because he put his foot up on dash? it was up somewhere but I imagine it was not the dash as he was driving?? Anyway, then he announces that he was so comfortable with me that he could not believe it. Way to shock me!! However, I do not recall going out with him again. I have been attracted to someone because of their hobbies/talents. I went out with a guy the Brassfield's looked up to for softball skills, this was an important part of life! We had a good time. We went shooting, a lot of outdoor things and had a blast, he brought me flowers too, so more than sports etc. I do not remember how that ended but it did. I have been attracted to those that had similar situations as I did. Bobby and a girl got pregnant in high school, and he was doing his best to be an incredible dad. I was attracted to those that I was partying with in high school, obviously same interests, those did not last long term.

Once when I was doing the training for officers I had an experience that I have never had before. One night we were out at Hill Air Force base in the abandoned barracks for drills into homes/offices. We were doing drug busts/home invasions/domestic abuse/ and kidnapping situations. We worked with a lot of officers that were training to become officers, and current officers and swat members would help train. This one house there was a swat guy and it was dark, I could not see him but there was an electric current in there that I had never felt before. Sight unseen we talked and spent a lot of time between scenarios together. He was holding me captive and had his arm around my neck/shoulders and man alive I did not want to move. During this situation they called it a night because of the time, and we just kept standing there, for several minutes, seemed like a lifetime. We finally let go, well he let go, and we walked out with everyone. I stood in a circle with Dan and a few others i had worked with, and this guy came up and stood next to me. I could only tell because the current came back. I tried to look at him peripherally but could not see anything but swat uniform. I knew if I looked at him full on, I would want to invite him home and I could not/would not do that, so I walked away, probably making him feel like he must have been the only one feeling it.  I have often wondered if that was the guy for me. Having never felt that before what if that was the guy I could have really had a good relationship with? What if we had been able to talk and enjoy the kind of respectful, kind, mutual relationship that I had never and may never experience again? I have often thought that a cop or swat would be someone that I could be safe with, feel protected, and may not feel that with anyone else, but that type of individual. He may be the type of person that I should not be with but I will never know. I also wonder if I will ever again in my life feel that feeling, it makes me sad that I may not.

So in my opinion, you do not fall in love at first sight, you fall in love with conversation and actions. That may only take a few hours or days, but the first sight is only an attraction that makes you want more.